I listen to what a mother needs for her to enjoy and care for her new baby. I make sure she feels cared for and supported, creating the best possible environment and abundance for the mother and baby to bond.
In many cultures, after a woman gives birth, she’s not expected to do anything the first 6 weeks apart from connecting with her newborn. During this postpartum period, she’s cared for by other women, fed particular foods, given massages, and is made to rest as much as possible. After this time of physical and emotional healing from the challenges of pregnancy and birth, the mother is again integrated into society with her new baby.
In our culture, there’s great emphasis on achievement. We enter into motherhood with the belief that we’re most successful when we are able to do as many things as soon after birth as possible. This cultural scrutiny often leaves women feeling down, deeply depleted and isolated. It’s not unusual nowadays for a new mother to compare herself to others, feeling like she’s not up to par or is a failure as a mother, a wife or friend. This makes me so sad. This new cultural belief is so unhealthy and harmful to us.
The more supportive care a new mother receives during this transitional time, the more she can joyfully embrace her new motherhood fully. It’s a learning process for everyone involved and an environment of gentle support that nourishes this process and it’s what I would like for every mother. A mother who has the time to care for herself, who feels supported and connected to her community is much less likely to find herself feeling overwhelmed, depressed, and isolated. These emotions and conditions were never meant to be a normal part of motherhood, and are an unfavourable starting point for a new family.
It’s not unusual for new mothers to feel like they’re regularly loosing their minds. Some of us are better at hiding this than others! We want to allow ourselves to honestly share our experiences as mothers, ask for help and forget that image of the super mom! By doing this, we inspire other mothers to do the same, to be themselves and to explore within for their real strengths.
The short answer is, postpartum support starts whenever you need me after the birth of your baby.
When possible, I always like to meet you and your family before the birth. Then after the baby arrives, you contact me when the time feels right, and I come to your home.
Every family is unique. so ultimately, I provide the help that fits your specific needs.
I offer non-judgmental support from those delicate first weeks and throughout that first year where every step is a new phase to learn and grow for the baby and for you as a parent too.
This is a magical although overwhelming time for many, and I’m there to offer gentle guidance, share information, care and reassurance. I love hearing women’s birth stories and support healing around the birth experience, which can truly lay the foundation for our trust in how we parent.
As part of your care, I am with you as a listener, attentive to your birth story and your experience as a new mother.
I offer guidance around your postpartum recovery, breastfeeding, baby-wearing, and all-round baby care.
I offer simple baby and mother massage and Yoga therapy.
I can help with cooking a meal or some light house-keeping and organizing.
For you to get a break for a nap, shower or just to free your hands, I can care for the baby or mind older children.
To be there for that additional care in the case of a cesarian or complications.
I also offer assistance later on when your baby gets older and you might go through periods where you feel extra tired or in need.
My visits are in minimum blocks of 3 hours or on a regular schedule during a 3 month period.
I had previously been an independent, capable and in control person. At times, I found myself sitting in a huge pile of laundry, crying with this kid that I always wanted, too tired to know what was going on with me and what to do about it.
There were nights when I would inexplicably start sobbing over the crib, unable to pick my daughter up. I just didn’t have any more to give. My husband would come running in baffled by what was happening and even with him, I just didn’t have it in me to explain what I was feeling. All I wanted to do was to curl up in a ball and disappear.
Our daughter was born 6 weeks premature, which meant that I was breast feeding every 2 hours and pumping in between. I fed her a bottle to make sure she had the energy to eat as much as she needed. This went on for months and took quite a toll on me.
We had planned a natural birth with a midwife in a cozy and highly attentive birthing house. Because our little girl wanted out early, we ended up at the hospital. There, I argued with nurses and doctors, and even at a terribly painful moment, I was asked in the most unsympathetic terms to sign a document releasing the hospital of any liability because I was not following instructions, specifically, preferring to be on all fours rather than lying on my back during contractions.
We didn’t know about doulas at the time. Most of our friends where either without children or started families many years ago when doulas were less current. Even with my husband at home with me most of the time, we felt like an island, doing our best to keep it together and learning as we went along. When we looked around, it seemed like everyone else with babies had it all together.
It would’ve been hard for us back then to believe it, but we made it! Today, my daughter is a healthy toddler, we managed to have survived the countless challenges of the journey. Looking back, I can see how desperate I was. I could’ve so benefited from someone to come and support me and my husband, to tell us that my reactions were totally normal, and to allow me to let go long enough to reconnect to myself.
In North America, studies show that 15 % of new mothers experience postpartum depression and moms who are supported by a doula during birth and the postpartum period have less depression, decreased anxiety, higher self-esteem and self confidence, than those moms who didn’t have doula support.